The approach

What a novel idea! Actually meeting someone in person for the first time, instead of meeting online the first time! I'd almost forgotten what that was like. Not only that, but learning about each other with friends first. It's amazing how much easier trust is when it happens that way.

T is much newer to our local bdsm community than I am. He is the strong, silent type. He would laugh at me saying that, but it is true. So, he quietly attended functions and gatherings. I am definitely NOT the silent type. We became familar with each other.

In November, a couple in our community had a re-commitment ceremony on their ten year anniversary. Since I sang at their original ceremony, they asked that I sing again. It took place at a dungeon in a nearby town. T attended and made sure to find me afterward to compliment me on my singing.

Later, I was in the kitchen area, looking for snacks and water. T came into the kitchen and we greeted one another. I was completely clueless as to what he had in mind, but I was about to find out. He sat down in one of the available chairs, patted the one beside him, and said, "Come sit down."

It was that simple. I was jolted. His expectation of compliance, his quiet dominance, and his gentlemanly manner overwhelmed me. It was as if he never even entertained the idea that I would refuse. He had an invisible string and was pulling me in. I sat down and we chatted for a few moments. He then, in a very straightforward manner, simply said that he would like to discuss playing with me.

To say I stuttered would be a gross understatement.

To be perfectly honest, I have no idea what I said. I only remember being surprised, very surprised that he wanted to play with me. T would be able to tell you what I said, for I have found that the man has the memory of an elephant. I honestly believe he remembers every word I've ever spoken in his presence, even if it was to someone else.

Since this was the week before Thanksgiving, we realized that it may be a while before we could schedule a time to get together. We spent time together for the remaider of the evening. I was still uncertain exactly what he had in mind. However, I have learned to bide my time and see if people actually follow through with discussions.

Imagine my delight to open my email to find a message from him immediately after Thanksgiving, inviting me to dinner! Another suprise! He actually wanted to spend time with me other than in a play session. So, we met for a wonderful dinner and conversation. We also agreed on a time and place for our first play session.

Since then, we have played at least once a week and many times twice a week. We also watch movies, eat out, and just hang out together. I am having a wonderful time!

Thanks, T, Sir!

Melonie